Lesson Three: The Importance of Rituals
Any couple, no matter how busy can bring slow living into their relationship. In this blog series I am going to give you the tools you need to bring more slow living into your relationship.
In last week’s blog post, I discussed how loving with intention can help you to create a slow living relationship. This week we are going to learn how rituals can bring more slow living into your relationship or marriage.
What are rituals?
Simply put, a ritual is something we repeatedly say or do in our lives. We all have rituals. The most simple example would be brushing your teeth, taking a shower, or even the traditions you have created around the special occasions in your life. Those constants in our life that we have come to count on day in and day out are our rituals.
Why are rituals important in a relationship?
Rituals can be grounding, comforting and when done thoughtfully and mindfully can bring us closer to our partner.
My husband and I have lots of rituals in our marriage. Our daily rituals that allow us the opportunity to slow down and be present with one another: A few moments together with coffee each morning; A slow kiss and long hug before we leave each other for the day; A warm embrace when we return home at the end of the work day; Going to bed at the same time each night. Each of these rituals is small, but together they have an immense impact on our marriage.
Creating a ritual at the start of the day such as a kiss, an embrace, or a small gesture like bringing your spouse a cup of coffee is a great way to get your day started. Being mindful of your rituals when you return home and meet again at the end of a long day is as equally important. Taking a moment to connect either physically or emotionally is a great way to transition your energy and focus away from the busyness of your day and on to your partner. (Especially if you are parents and home life is busy in the evening!)
How can we use rituals to create a slow living relationship?
Being mindful of our rituals with our partner helps us to slow down and connect in our relationship. You can create a ritual out of just about anything in your day to day life. First, take some time to think and talk about the rituals you and your spouse have already created in your relationship. Are these rituals you both would like to continue doing? Are there any rituals you and your partner would like to do more of? Second, pay attention to your rituals when you are doing them. Set the intention to try and be in the present moment when you are engaging in these rituals with your sweetie. Finally, notice how your rituals make you feel. Take note of how they impact your feelings of connection or love with your partner.
Creating a slow living relationship is work, however with time, patience and practice you and your partner will experience better communication, fulfillment in your relationship, and increased connection with one another.
Join me next week, where you will learn the next step towards a slow living relationship: showing gratitude.
In the meantime, I invite you explore with your partner the rituals you have currently in your relationship and how tending to these rituals can increase your connection and satisfaction with one another.