If you are considering using third-party donor egg, sperm or embryo to build your family, your doctor or fertility clinic may suggest you meet with a counselor or therapist prior to the donation procedure. Counseling is an opportunity for exploration of complex ethical, social, and psychological issues associated with third-party reproduction. I want you to know, that counseling for third-party family building is not intended to be a test you and your partner must pass prior to treatment. Rather, this counseling session offers you a place to process your thoughts, feelings and concerns related to the use of a third-party donation.
What happens at my counseling session?
Third-party donation counseling is approximately 1.5 hours and covers many of the topics recommended by the American Society of Reproductive Medicine, (ASRM). Most fertility clinics and doctors require this step in order to continue with donor conception. Therefore, with your written permission, I provide a brief report for your doctor or clinic. This report is included in your consultation fee.
Third Party/Donor Counseling Topics
Here is a sample of some of the topics we may cover during your consultation:
- What are our best options? Why have we decided that this is our best option?
- How do we choose a donor?
- What role will the donor have in our lives, if any?
- Should we tell our child about his/her donor conception?
- Will I feel like my child isn’t really mine?
- I am upset about not having a child who is not biologically mine. Is that ok?
- Should we tell our family members about this?
- How do we deal with questions from the people in our life?
- What if this path doesn’t work?
- Do I tell my child about all of this? How and when?
- Will this upset my child in the future?
Where is the counseling appointment?
First, I want you to know that I appreciate how hard your journey to parenthood has been. Therefore, my goal is to make this step in your family building journey as easy as possible. Depending on where you are in your journey, your schedule is already filled with appointments, monitoring, and timed injections. In addition, you are balancing work, family and life commitments. It is a lot to manage. That’s why I offer appointments both in my office located in Hopkinton and online. Online or video counseling is held via a safe and secure video platform. Individuals and couples who’s geographical location or schedule make it difficult to meet in my Hopkinton office appreciate the convenience that online counseling offers.
How much does it cost?
The 90 minute donor counseling session and report is $200.00.
How do I schedule a consultation?
You can schedule your donor consultation by contacting me directly here.