Any couple, no matter how busy can bring slow living into their relationship. In this blog series I am going to give you the tools you need to bring more slow living into your relationship.
My husband and I are busy. We both run our own businesses, live in an old home with a never ending “to-do” list, and as entrepreneurs, both work hard, all week long.
Today is Sunday, and I am sitting at my desk in my pajamas, warm cup of tea in hand, watching the quiet of life outside of my office window. I am taking time to feel the warmth of the cup in my hand, to breath in the scent of the delicious aromatherapy burning in my office, and to listen to the footsteps of my sweet husband as he walks around upstairs. Slowing down to take notice of the present moment. Using all my senses to take in and embrace everything surrounding me, and everything that brings me comfort. This is slow living.
Sunday is sacred in our home. The one day of the week, where neither one of us have to be anywhere for work. On Sunday, everything slows down. I love slow.
Slow living has become an important part of my own journey to living a more mindful and present life. I am not perfect at this way of living by any means. However I try hard every day to find opportunities to slow down and be in the present moment. As a result, I am living a happier, and more grounded life. Consequently, my embrace of mindful living has made it’s way into my relationships. Specifically, into my marriage, as my husband and I have also made a commitment to incorporate slow living into our relationship.
What is a slow living relationship?
A slow living relationship is one where you and your partner make the conscious decision to live mindfully with one another. You acknowledge all of the distractions of daily living and make time to tune in to the present moments you share together. You create routines and rituals that support this and you work together to make this way of living a priority in your relationship.
Why is a slow living relationship important?
Our lives are incredibly busy. We are living in a high speed world. And our day to day lives are filled with responsibilities both in and outside of the home. We are building careers, and families, managing endless responsibilities and households and everything seems to be moving faster and faster. Thanks to technology, we have access to each other 24 hours a day. Still strangely enough, we have never been more disconnected.
Creating a slow living marriage is not easy. We got married and slowly our days became filled with routines and we have become even more aware of how easy it would be to slip out of present moments and into the monotony of “busy.” Keeping up with work routines, finances, home life, and friends/family: all these things can threaten the tender and coveted fullness found in slow-living.
How do you create a slow living relationship?
The first step to creating a slow living relationship is to talk about it. Have a discussion with your partner about what your lives together are currently like. Asking questions and being curious together is a great place to start. Some questions to consider together are:
- What in your lives makes you feel “busy”?
- When do you last remember feeling connected with one another?
- What is the biggest obstacle right now to being able to slow down and be present with one another?
- How would life be different if you were able to slow down more?
There are four key components to a slow living relationship: setting intentions, creating rituals, practicing daily gratitude, and practicing self-care. Any couple, no matter how busy can bring slow living into their relationship. In this blog series I am going to give you the tools you need to bring more slow living into your relationship. Together we will dive deep into the four key components needed to bring slow living into your world together.
Creating a slow living relationship is work, however with time, patience and practice you and your partner will lead to better communication, feelings of fulfillment in your relationship, and increased connection with one another.
Join me next week, where you will learn the next towards a slow living relationship: setting intentions.
In the meantime, I invite you consider how your relationship would shift if you and your partner embraced slow living? What small step can you take today to begin to bring more slow living into your relationship?
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